BISEXUAL SPOUSE

This is a blog about the discovery of a bisexual spouse.  My name is Dr. Karen Winterle and I am a  psychotherapist relocated to south west Florida to start a new private practice. I have experience working with the discovery of a  bisexual spouse, the healing process onto recovery. A client, Mary shares her story so that other woman can know there is light  at  the end of  the tunnel.  

Mary experiences the discovery of a bisexual spouse after 14 years of marriage. She was hysterical and felt helpless as to what to do to handle discovery of a bisexual spouse and this horrific trauma. I asked her if she had confronted him. He said he refused to talk about it and walked  away. Mary began to share her story about what was happening in her marriage. She said he asked to go away on a motorcycle vacation with another couple without her. They had always vacationed together. Then she found a strip  of condoms hidden in his shoe in the closet. Her tubes were tied and he had a vasectomy. Mary shared that her spouse, Jake, had  begun to change about five months ago.  Then she shared  his style of kissing and making love had changed.  Clues of an affair, ménage a trois or bisexuality were indicated.  I shared that upon discovery of a bisexual spouse it is important not to jump to conclusions.  He may not be acting on his bisexuality. And the discovery of a bisexual spouse does not mean the marriage is over.

Suspect an Affair

Today my partner came home and asked if he could go away without me. Something he had never done. I hesitated but said yes since our relationship was falling apart, thinking the time away would give him time to think. I suspect an affair but can't prove it. What can I look for if  I suspect an affair?
First of great importance if you suspect an affair is trust your gut. Next, suspect an affair if he wants to go away without you when you have always vacationed together. Has your sex life slowed or halted, suspect an affair?  Check the browser history on your computer and  emails if you suspect an affair. Check his cell phone for texts and calls from people you do not know if you suspect an affair.